Southern Calvert County is in mourning following the sudden passing of Steve Hartling, a beloved football coach, teacher, and naturalist who died at the age of 48.
Recognized for his booming voice, warm heart, and uncompromising commitment to his family and community, Steve’s legacy continues through his wife, Melissa Hartling, their two sons, Owen and Cole, and the countless lives he impacted.
Born Steve A. Hartling On January 17, 1977, In The Bronx, New York, To Parents James and Phyllis
Steve grew up with a deep love for the outdoors and a knack for connecting with people.
He attended school in the Lakeland School District in upstate New York before pursuing higher education at SUNY Oneonta.
Later, he transferred to Salisbury State University in Maryland, where he earned his degree in Education—a stepping stone to a career that would shape young minds for years to come.
Steve taught in the Maryland school system for 13 years, and his passion for teaching was clear throughout that time.
He didn’t stop at his bachelor’s degree; he went on to earn master’s degrees in Education and Mathematics, always striving to better himself for his students.
More recently, Steve found joy in teaching at the Camp Schmidt Outdoor Education Center, where he introduced students from across Maryland to the wonders of the Chesapeake Bay’s diverse ecology.
His love for nature shone through as he guided young explorers, fostering in them a respect for the environment.
Beyond the classroom, Steve was a familiar face in the community.
He worked as a bartender at Buckets, a local spot where he became more than just a server—he was family to many.
With his quick wit, sarcastic humor, and ever-watchful eye, Steve made everyone feel safe and cared for.
As Megan Herren-Shotwell, a regular at Buckets, shared,
“This one hurts bad man. Steve was always kind, a little bit sarcastic, but mostly just looked out and had my back at every moment. He had his eye on all his “kids” at all times and was there for me in ways I can’t put into words.
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Steve, you will be missed and we know you would only want us to smile and laugh and flick someone off for you. Lol.
Love you always! 💕
Steve coached the Solomons Steelers and UA Rise Flag Football in Southern Calvert County.
To his players, he was more than a coach—he was a mentor, a role model, and a “huge teddy bear with an even larger heart,” as the football community described him.
His deep baritone voice commanded attention, but it was his ability to connect with young athletes that left a lasting mark.
He taught them not just about the game but about life, helping shape them into the men they would become.
The Solomon Steelers SBGC expressed their heartbreak:
At The Center Of Steve’s Life Was His Wife, Melissa Hartling, His Soulmate And Partner In Every Way
Their love was apparent to anyone who saw them together—Steve’s face would light up whenever Melissa and their sons, Owen and Cole, were near. T
He found joy in his family, and it spread to everyone around him.
This showed the life they built together.
Steve is also survived by his parents, James and Phyllis, his brother James, and his sister Christine, who shared his warmth and love.
Melissa is facing a great loss, but she stays strong for her boys.
The community has come together to support the Hartling family, showing the same selflessness that Steve showed.
A Meal Train organized by the football community has raised over $13,000, far surpassing its $5,000 goal, to provide meals, gift cards, and financial support.
The outpouring of love highlights Steve’s impact:
“The Hartling family is one of many that make up the whole in our football community. The loss they are experiencing is immense, and we feel some of that with them.”
Many people who knew Steve have shared tributes that describe him as a man who lived fully and loved deeply.
Owen C. Roberson, a friend, wrote,
“Melissa, I was so sorry to learn of the passing of Steve. He was always such a pleasure to talk with and see at 231 and at auctions. Of course you know I always had special feeling due to our friendship and of course having Owen as your son and we having the same name. Take care and hope to see you soon. “
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Megan Herren-Shotwell’s touching reflection at Buckets captures our shared sadness.
Steve’s passing leaves a noticeable void. As a naturalist, teacher, coach, and friend, he inspired curiosity and built character.
His love for animals, sarcastic humor, and loyalty made him a cornerstone of the community.
As Southern Calvert County mourns, it also celebrates the life of a man who lived with purpose.
